Even amicable New Jersey divorces can become contentious when deciding who gets the family home, vehicles and other assets. If you and your spouse know a divorce is best but dread the stress and anxiety that often accompanies the traditional process, mediation may be a better alternative.
According to the American Bar Association, Mediation uses a neutral third party to help people in conflict consider options and reach an acceptable settlement. This resolution method has several benefits over divorce court.
Lower stress levels
Parties that maintain composure outside court often become combative in the courtroom, increasing stress and conflict. Mediation typically takes place in a more informal environment, such as a conference room or office. Unlike judges who must follow regulations regarding behavior and process, mediators have the training to help ease tense situations and the process has more flexibility. When both you and your partner relax, it lowers stress levels and allows you to focus on the issues at hand.
Control the process
Every divorce is unique, but legal statutes require that the court handles issue resolution in a particular manner. Judges must rely on rules and points of law. However, mediation allows you to address the specific problems you and your spouse experience creatively. You can work out a plan that benefits you both. Although going to court offers decision enforceability, you can add that your mediation agreement is legally binding.
Mediation allows you to avoid many of the scheduling hassles and fees associated with the courthouse. Since mediation does not rely on the same type of formal structure as a legal process, you may conclude your divorce quickly and quietly, allowing you to move forward with your life.